It's so hard for me not to bust out with song lyrics about this oft-sung-about topic, but I'll do my best. Today at Sisterhood we discussed love--all different kinds: romantic, familial, platonic (friendship), etc. Adults might tell you that you don't know what love is, but no matter your age, whatever you're feeling is REAL to you. It might be considered puppy love by someone else, but if you feel it, you feel it, and it matters. Some A Lunch Sisters said that when they're around someone they like (love) they get the urge to giggle uncontrollably. They blush. Their ears burn and turn red. How do you know if it's love (Van Halen--sorry, couldn't help it)?
Some BLunchers said that love at this age is casual, in that you might write their name all over your hand with a Sharpie, but when picturing your future, you could easily picture it without them (but NOT without your girlfriends!). We also talked about how love is portrayed in books, TV, or the movies. The Sisters said that it's sometimes unrealistic and exaggerated and overly romanticized. Over the top. That can be good and bad. Bad in that maybe it gives people unrealistic expectations but good in that it's a real escape. What do you think?
No Sisterhood next week--it's Thanksgiving! We'll see you on Tuesday, December 2 for the All-Sisterhood Luncheon in the Library from 10:30-2:00. Please remember to bring what you signed up for--see Ms. Brittain or me if you need a memory refresher.
Love ya, Sisters!
8 comments:
I really like this topic, it's very interesting. and when you really think about it, you sort of get lost in your thoughts. I sort of see both parts to this, love is love, like ms elliot said, but if all you know is wat u know than how do we not know wat love is?And yes, at our age love is casual, and i plead guilty to the sharpie hand thing. :P But love in middle school just makes you feel good, gets you excited, but people shouldnt talk down to ones who claim to be in love, dont tell them they have no idea wat they are talking about. I think we have a right to love, even in middle school. However, i know when i look to the future i could picture it without my boyfriend, but if i didn't have my friends, i wouldn't be able to survive! It all falls under the catagorie of love....
Also, its important to know that guys probably don't think of girlfriends in such a romantic way. We are doing a writting project on how to make a (insert opposite sex)feel special. The guys only need food and football. Girls need to be loved.
Even though it's true that more boys tend to be the "food and football" type (in the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, more girls tend to be the emotional type (F) and more boys are the more objective type (T) if anyone knows what I'm talking about...), I think it's important not to generalize.... I know fiction and reality aren't always the same, but I was thinking of Johnny and Ponyboy in The Outsiders...they're boys, but they can be emotional and they need others to care about them, especially Johnny...maybe that's why I can relate to them so much. (Love that book, BTW :3)
Anon. #2: Think of your dad. Does he love your mom becuase of football? Guys are people too, just like us. Inside they crave the same thing. Love
Also, totally unrelated, but remember that in life it's important to stand up to the bully. If you don't stand up to the bully you become the bully. If you don't help you hurt. It's as simple as that. We have a duty to the world to be the best that we can be.
hi! ano.#2
I meant guys as in our age. of course as boys get older, they think as love in a more romantic, loyal way. I was talking about middle school-aged guys.
love is a mysterory. No one nows the true meaning, sure you can look it up in a dictionary but it doesn't have the right meaning to match anyone. Love to me is a felling of romace, emtion, and heart-break are just some of the things that I think love is.
So don't jugde your sista's on their oppion on things(not just love)b/c everyone has their own oppion.
Anon 4 here:
Anon 2: What You're doing is stereotyping and generalizing. As the wonderful Anon 3 said, it's important NOT to do that! How would you feel if a bunch of guys got together and decided that love at our age for girls was nothing but muscles and makeup? Before making such statements, maybe take some time to realize how sexist you're being?
Anon 3: You're totally correct!
i'd like to add on: in the Myers Briggs indicator, let's take a look at some great male feelers. The most famous ISFP, Pablo Picasso, was a male feeler. Famous INFJs like Ghandi and Jesus were male.
And You're amazing. i know who You are by reading your comment, and You truly ARE amazing.
Anon 6: Totally true! But if You don't judge people by their opinions, then what do You judge them by? Actions are simply a concrete reflection of abstract opinion.
Anon 1: i think that people have every right to talk down to casual love. Becuase it's TRUE that we have no idea what we're talking about if we love like that, with the whole Sharpie hand thing. Physical attraction, if that, is all we're really feeling, and it would be immoral for us to confuse that with love.
Anon 4 again:
i really didn't mean to be rude or insulting with that last comment. i just read it and realized that i may come across as so, and i'm sorry if i hurt anyone's feelings. Remeber that You are great, no matter what idiots like me say!
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