Being that it is Valentine's Day, we thought it might be a good to talk about it. Actually, a B Lunch Sister suggested it last week. If you Sisters ever have suggestions for future topics of discussion, just let me know!
The A Lunchers seemed to have a more positive view on Valentine's Day than the B Lunchers. Some A Lunch positive comments were:
* I like it for the presents!
* We celebrate it as a family by making crepes every year.
* A Teacher Sister's mom still sends her cookies every year.
* We always do something as a family, like go to a movie.
* Another Teacher Sister got a very sweet valentine from her son who's at college and it made her feel so good.
There were also a few Sisters who didn't like some parts of the day. One Sister said that it's kind of hard when people around you are getting lots of valentines and attention and all you get is a 'oh, hi.' And a Teacher Sister wondered if Valentine's Day is necessary. Do we really need a certain day to tell the special people in our lives that we love them? What do you think?
B Lunch had quite a different perspective on the day. Here's what they had to say:
* I don't like what the holiday has become: a popularity contest. There is a lot of pressure for people to ask others out and to have this perfect day.
* It's silly. People feel pressure to do something they normally wouldn't do.
* At home, it's ok. At school, it's pressure.
* It goes against my religion to ask people out, but to me it's about sharing sweets and friendship.
* It's fun. I like exchanging gifts and making people feel special. But last year I gave out a lot of gifts and didn't get many back and that was hard.
* It's a Hallmark holiday, full of expectations--a big label on a day. Some guys even dump girls before Valentine's Day so they don't have to buy a gift.
* A Teacher Sister said that for her, it's a time to celebrate the fact that she loves so many people in the world.
Right when it was time to go, a Sister asked the group, "How many of you felt pressure on Valentine's day?" Many girls raised their hands.
What do you think? Do you feel pressure and why? Please leave a comment to continue the dialogue.
Oh, and have a great February break. See you in 2 weeks, Sisters!!!!
5 comments:
My Valentine's Day was interesting this year. It was a lot about friends, and I have a crush on this fictional character, and I got stuff "from him". This year it was positive, but it was hard to ignore the couples giving roses to eachother in the halls.
Also, I think that it is our choice to make it be what we want to be. We can make it all friendy, then people when follow us. I mean, it would be different if nobody listened to the Hallmark commercials.
During A Lunch I said that "I think it's silly people need a day to show affection to one another."
Do you guys agree?
It didn't feel too good when some of the people you thought would give you something didn't and gave other people things. it made me feel like they didn't like being my friend. at least MOST of my friends and i shared valentines with eachother!
I think Valentine's Day was sort of better in elementary school, when we had the "give something to everyone or no one" rule. It makes it easier because you don't have to worry so much about making people feel disappointed or about being disappointed yourself.
It's also kind of hard when your friend gives you something to say thanks and be inwardly bashing yourself for forgetting to make cards. I think it's important to remember that what you do on one single day isn't an indicator of who you are as a friend.
@ Anon. 2: I sort of agree with you - people shouldn't say "oh, this is the day where we care about each other, and after Valentine's Day we don't need to show we care." I think that it's okay to have a fun little holiday to celebrate love and friendship, though, when it's not being "abused".
Yes, I do think it is silly, but people need a reminder. There should be an "I am single and happy" day.
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