Today's discussion centered on confidence. Do you think how you feel about yourself reflects how others view you? One Sister said that if you live your life in your bubble, people see that bubble and stay out of it. Another Sister talked about how she used to be the girl who was always picked on on the bus, until she decided to stand up for herself and speak out. Once she did that, people stopped picking on her and started treating her with r.e.s.p.e.c.t.
How much of your confidence comes from YOU? How much comes from OTHERS? One Sister said that it becomes easier to believe in yourself if you have a friend who believes in you. Would you agree with that? If so, then maybe confidence is contagious???
So, what about compliments, then? Do you believe it when someone gives you a compliment? Why do girls/women sometimes feel the need to explain why that compliment couldn't possibly be true? And in fact, why do we sometimes put ourselves down in response to a compliment?
Also, why do the negative comments we hear stick with us more than the positive ones? Why can we hear 10 great things about ourselves and one negative one and all we'll remember is the negative one? Seriously, Sisters, what is up with that?
I think we need to give ourselves permission to believe compliments, to see the good in ourselves, and to WEAR that confidence each and every day.
4 comments:
No, I don't think it always is...perhaps insecurity shows through, but I don't think other stuff does.
The fact that I'm quiet and super-shy around strangers (not friends!) and that I'm smart leads people to dislike me/think I'm stuck up.
Also, remember...
We have the need to get better at everything. Advertisments tell you that you need better abs, food, technology, make-up,skin,hair, pretty much anything. I think we are so used to needing to get better at (fill in the blank)that we don't know what to say to good compliments. And that goes for everybody.
The girl in the story never talked about her gorgous copper hair. She only cared about the clothes she couldn't pull off or couldn't afford. Other people have a bigger affect on us than ourselves.
....also remember
Maybe we don't accept compliments becuase we don't think we deserve them, or think that people are making fun of us/trying to be mean when they talk to us becuase we feel beneath them, like we don't deserve their attention?
Mmm, that was an interesting story we read today. I can't say I thought much of the girl, honestly. She went out with a guy when she was his second choice, when he only noticed her becuase of the way she held her head, and even though it's obvious that they was no way they could ever be involved in a serious relationship: she was the last resort and could never make him happy, and he could never have made her happy either.
*Sigh.
Sometimes we don't know HOW we see ourselves...then would insecurity be seen? I don't know...
PS: Just thought I'd take this oppertunity to say:
Ms Elliot.
You rock.
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