Today at the Sisterhood, we talked about the label of 'Best Friends.' At both lunches, the Sisters thought plural best friends were ok and that a network of really good friends was great to have. I asked how the Sisters felt about the label of 'best friends'and if they've ever felt excluded by it. Here's what some Sisters had to say:
* This label often hurts relationships
* Sometimes people take it too far and I feel left out sometimes. A lot of people are "taken" as a BF. Twin Day is an example of a time that can be fun, but it also can be exclusive. Many spirit days can be, especially if you're not a part of a group all dressed alike.
* Sometimes the people I hang out with aren't my best friends, and people may think we're closer than we are. But you have to be careful who you trust because sometimes you get hurt.
* Some people think having a best friend defines or labels them.
* Most best friends seem to be gender exclusive and if you're best friends with a guy, people call you sleazy.
* It frustrates me when I get labeled.
* When people wear matching clothes it seems like they're trying to up their popularity.
* It's like their friends are their accessories.
* It's annoying.
What do you think?
It A Lunch I mentioned that we can all name qualities that make someone a good friend. But what about qualities that don't? Here's what some Sisters said before we ran out of time:
* Being jealous and posessive
* Not nice
* Not caring when a friend is having a hard time.
What are some other not-so-hot friendship qualities?
The Sisters in both lunches had a lot to say about this topic. Please leave a comment if you didn't get a chance to speak your mind.
4 comments:
You know, I actually don't think possesiveness is a bad quality.
If you're possesive becuase you're jealous then it is, but if you're possesive becuase you're trying to protect someone then it isn't.
My friend would brag a lot,but not realize how it would affect me. I was so jealous of her, but then I realized that she was just bragging because she didn't like her life, or that she was jealous of me. Some bad qualitys in friends lead to anothers friend having that bad quality.
For the people who have guy friends, if people tease you, they are the ones who have problems. I can't believe that people still tease girls about having guy friends, it is so kindergardern!
We all know that it can sometimes be hard to accept an old friend's new friend, but I want to point out that sometimes it's hard to be the new friend because you worry that the other person is jealous/angry/whatever. I know it's probably unreasonable, but I can't help feeling nervous sometimes.
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